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Browse by vibe — political commentary, popular culture, or care + community.
Care + community
Mutual aid, relationship dynamics, community care, and the parts of liberation practice that happen in real life.
Finding agency when the world is on fire
Trump’s passport, immigration privilege, parasocial AI, and finding real agency when everything feels out of control.
The mental load is killing you (and capitalism started it)
Mental health days, invisible labor, and the mental load — traced back to capitalism’s roots in enslavers’ production ledgers.
Travel is political
What it’s actually like to travel as a queer, disabled woman of color — safety, logistics, and more.
Inside the manosphere
Absentee fathers, hurt boys, and why radicalization fills the space therapy should — plus what it’s like raising a boy right now.
Care is political
Mutual aid vs. charity, invisible labor, and what it looks like to survive crises together.
Burnout, pain, grief: what to do when everything feels heavy
Some days can’t be fixed. Permission to let a bad day be bad instead of hustling your way out of it.
Disability, guilt, and accountability (plus Beyoncé)
Disability, medical trauma, surrender, and unlearning parentification — plus a Beyoncé pop-culture spiral.
New year, new you
A gentle (and skeptical) take on reinvention that isn’t hustle cosplay.
Political commentary
For when the world is loud and you still want to stay human.
White feminism, Valley girls & why progress isn’t linear
Koa Beck (author of White Feminism) on the difference between being a white feminist and practicing white feminism.
P. Diddy, boycotts & why cancel culture is for corporations, not people
Gaslighting vs. genuine disagreement, Wendy’s funding MAGA, and why boycotts hit corporations differently than individuals.
Surviving Trump
Collective grief, privilege, and resource mapping for when despair takes over.
America the colonizer
Venezuela, empire, and why “surprising” is the wrong word when the U.S. stops pretending.
2025 sucked
A postmortem on the year: what broke, what clarified, and what we’re refusing to normalize.
Cult of America
Nationalism, myth-making, and why “compromise” so often protects power instead of people.
Everyday resistance
Micro-actions, burnout boundaries, and what you can do to fight fascism without collapsing.
Is feminism dead—or are men just big mad?
The “feminism recession” myth, male fragility, and raising boys who won’t grow up into power-hungry assholes.
Popular culture
Episodes about who gets centered, how stories teach politics, and why “it’s just entertainment” is a lie.
The Kevin Hart roast wasn’t funny
Punching down, rape culture humor, and why “it’s just a joke” is never just a joke.
The Met Gala, billionaires & wealth disparity
Why the Met Gala stopped being art the moment it started flattering power instead of challenging it.
Taylor Swift, fascism & determining what’s enough
Manufactured urgency, billionaire wealth, and why fascism creeps in slowly instead of arriving all at once.
Problematic Potter
How beloved stories can reinforce white supremacy — and how to stay critical without pretending harm doesn’t exist.
Sinners review
A spoiler-heavy critique of race, power, motherhood, and who gets centered in Hollywood “political” stories.
Why hobbies matter
Why reclaiming hobbies is political — plus Bad Bunny, the Super Bowl, and refusing the pressure to monetize everything you love.
Everything Is Political series
A special series connecting the dots between your everyday life and the world around you — guest conversations, one topic at a time.
Getting dressed is a political act (and has always been)
Dacy Gillespie on class, race, and body politics in what we wear — and who actually gets to choose.
What Ozempic, food deserts & diet culture have in common
Shana Spence on food deserts, GLP-1s, and diet culture’s white supremacy roots.
We throw away 40% of our food while 40 million people go hungry
Erica Clahar & Gwenn Nolan on food waste, environmental racism, and who our waste systems actually serve.
The politics of mental health with Dr. Han Ren
Therapy access, cultural stigma, and Dr. Han Ren’s upcoming book The Hyphenated Life.
Echo chambers, cancel culture & why we’re afraid to be wrong
Danielle Marshall on having hard conversations without needing to win them.
Stay messy
The hustle-yhuman way to stay in the loop
New episodes, Circle updates, and live events — sent like a human wrote it.