Burnout, Pain, Grief: What to Do When Everything Feels Heavy

Some days aren’t fixable. They aren’t mindset problems. They aren’t invitations to “reframe.” This episode is about letting a day be heavy without trying to hustle your way out of it — and why pretending otherwise often makes things worse.

This episode is for you if you’re having a genuinely shitty day — physical pain, rejection, caregiving stress, grief, or exhaustion — and you need permission to let it be bad instead of emotionally gaslighting yourself into “turning it around.”

Becky and Taina talk honestly about what it looks like to live inside a bad day instead of trying to optimize your way out of it. From chronic pain and perimenopause to caregiving, grief, financial stress, and the impossible emotional math of deciding when it’s time to let go, this conversation holds the mess without rushing to clean it up.

This is an episode about asking for help when it feels like failure. About how self-gaslighting drains more energy than rest ever could. About the quiet power of naming your limits — and letting them be real.

If you’re feeling raw, overwhelmed, or stretched thin right now, you’re not broken — and you’re definitely not alone.

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In this episode, we talk about:

• Why some days can’t be “turned around” without doing more harm
• Chronic pain, perimenopause, and the toll of living in a hurting body
• The vulnerability hangover after creating something meaningful
• How comparison and money talk activate shame — even in aligned spaces
• Why asking for help can feel like failure, concession, or loss of power
• Parenting, partnership, and the guilt of needing rest
• Caregiving grief and loving someone while knowing the end is coming
• The impossible responsibility of deciding when to say goodbye
• Avoidance, coping, and why comfort isn’t the same as denial
• Letting a day be bad — and how that can prevent a spiral